Women – Page 10 – Dupe's Blog

Posted on November 9, 2017March 12, 2018 by Mo' — 10 Comments

MY ROOMMATES

Hi faithful readers.

It’s been a while, I’m sorry for my prolonged silence; I was writing exams.

I’m done with my second semester exams, which implies that I’m moving to a new level (yayyy?) and moving to another room (?).

The thought of getting familiar with another set of people and getting to understand them has been on my mind.

God put it in my heart to share this because He’s been helping me lately with my relationship with people.

At the beginning of the year, I clicked a room in the hostel and met new faces who were later to become my friends and sisters; meet them.

PS:

My proximity and closeness to them determines how much I can say about them.

SOPHIA

Tall, beautiful and very intelligent Edo girl. Her fashion sense is on a hundred ?. She’s blunt and down to earth, an amazing cook and a selfie addict.

Also a passionate lover of football.
She’s the only person I can relate to almost totally, also the only person in the room that understands almost everything I say. She’s very caring and very sacrificial. Loves sleep too much and goes for lectures 30minutes or an hour late.

But…
She gets moody at random and shuts everyone out.
She could be very rude and annoying. She expects everyone to be polite to her; you can’t get your own stuff back from her without saying a “please”.

Most of the time, she’s very unapologetic about her actions.

HALIMA

Also very beautiful and a fashionista. Very funny and lovely to be with. Has a tiny voice that on it’s own, makes you laugh. We always tease her that her husband doesn’t need TV, she’s enough entertainment. Never a dull moment with her.
Foodie ?; if allowed, she can have breakfast 3 times.

But…
Practices favoritism. Sometimes very rude and speaks rashly (may not be intentional).

Doesn’t filter her words.

HIRHYEL (MY BUNK MATE)

Dark and beautiful northern Christian.
Not a fashion person. Super cook. Book smart and intelligent.
Sometimes, she can be caring for Africa.

But…

Sometimes, speaks rudely to everybody without giving regard.
Speaks slowly but poisonously.
Withdraws to herself a lot.

ASIYA.

Beautiful northern girl. Speaks very good English.
Great talker; story teller of the room.
Hates cooking.

But…
Sometimes, decides to be on her own, just like that!
Could be sarcastic.

Cherishes her bed and doesn’t want anybody on it (as if that were possible ?)
Has a sharp piercing voice that can raise the dead (We call her soprano voice)

KHADIJAH

Beautiful fulani girl with beautiful long curly hair.
Loves her books more than anything in the world.
Could read a whole day nonstop, if allowed.
Fashionista; she sews and wears the most beautiful Ankara styles in the room. Make up artist and selfie addict.

But…
Her reading habit makes every other person in the room look like they’re not serious.
A little secretive.

MARIA

Dark northerner. Great talker and story teller. Nice and sacrificial.

But…
Very sarcastic and rude. Talks way too much and wants everyone silent while she speaks – which means we won’t be talking in a while.

MUNARH

Very pretty Igala girl. Fashion sense ??. Introvert?.
Very humble and nice. Quiet and reserved. Very open to learning new things.

But…
Always with her phone and hardly speaks to anyone. Sometimes ignores you when you talk because talking is stressful for her.
Never in the mood to go out so she bails on us most times when we plan to go out together.

Dupe. (MY HUMBLE SELF)

Beautiful Yoruba girl?.

Fashionista.
Very intelligent. Jesus lover that never stops playing worship in the room. Cares for everyone and wants to know why you’re moody, if you’ve eaten, where you’re going and when you’ll be back.
Hates cooking.

But…
Withdraws to herself sometimes.
Comes in from church very late almost everyday and disturbs everybody’s sleep. Phone rings at any time of the day.

Plays worship as soon as she’s up and messgaes during the day and everybody has to listen.
Gets upset whenever anyone sits on her bed or makes use of her properties without her consent.

First semester was tough for all of us. We were always having issues with one another. We lacked understanding and mutual agreement.

Everybody had an issue or two with another person.

Today, you think “oh I think she’s better, I like her” and tomorrow, she shows you a side of her, you’ll detest.

But second semester I got to understand everyone of them (including myself) and saw the good in them, regardless of their shortcomings.

When I saw the;

-beauty and wonder in SOPHIA
-beauty and humility in HALIMA
-beauty and good intentions in HIRHYEL
-beauty and plainness in ASIYA
-beauty and ambition in KHADIJAH
-beauty and sacrifice in MARIA
-beautiful and pleasant personality MUNARH is
-beauty and love in DUPE.

I began to relate with them better. I understood them and tried to see things from their point of view and not judge. I leant their values and respected them.

Could it be, that the reason you’re having people issues is due to lack of mutual understanding and respect?

Could it be that you’re always at loggerheads with someone because you don’t see things like them?

Could it be that you do not like people because all you see is the bad in them and not the good?

When you understand people, respect their values, see things from their perspective and never judge them based on their actions, you’ll relate better with them and love them.

There is nobody who is bad; this is the secret to loving everyone.
When you understand that people are slaves to their understanding, then you can look at someone “unlovable” and still love them.

-Apostle Joshua Selman

I urge you dear reader, never write anyone off. Give them the chance.

There’s a good in everyone you meet.

There are no bad people, just people with bad behaviors. You don’t want to know what some of them have been through.
Change them if you can and if you can’t, just love them.

Posted on October 19, 2017January 31, 2021 by Mo' — 68 Comments

Interview with Sandra Areh – “The Fabulous, God-loving Career Woman – Striking A Balance”.

Women are wonderful creatures of God.

A proof of God’s artistry.

Although with a lot of cares like what to wear, what to use and what not, some of us are still kingdom ambassadors and passionately chasing after God – a relentless pursuit. Coupled with that, some women are career women.

How then do we give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God, what is God’s?

How do I balance my school/career work, my relationship and service for God and looking beautiful?

I had this amazing interview with the beautiful Sandra Areh on “The fabulous, God-loving career woman. – Striking a balance.”

You’re sure going to learn a thing or two..

Dupe: Welcome to Dupe’s blog ma. Can we meet you?

Sandra Areh: My name is Sandra Areh.

Dupe: What do you do?

Sandra Areh: I work as a Personal Assistant to a Legislator.

Dupe: On a scale of 1-10, how busy are you with work daily?

Sandra Areh: On the average 7-8

Dupe: Wow that’s on the high side. How long have you been born again?

Sandra Areh: Over 7years.

Dupe: Great. Meaning you were still in school then?

Sandra Areh: Yes, I made the decision in my first week in school after I gained admission, although I was raised in a Christian home and I loved God.

Dupe: Were you involved in kingdom activities whilst in school?

Sandra Areh: Yes I was

Dupe: Was it easy? Having to do that along with school work.

Sandra Areh: I would say my time was planned, I had what you’ll call a triangular lifestyle- Lectures, church and back to my hostel. It wasn’t so demanding because I loved it…

Dupe: Interesting. Can you share some of the challenges and struggles you had? If any.

Sandra Areh: Challenges in what area?

Dupe: Lecture/assignments and church/fellowship meetings. Did your lecture time disrupt your time for God?

Sandra Areh: Not necessarily. Most of my spiritual activities were in the evening/nights and I had lectures from morning-afternoon sometimes evening… There was really no disruption.

Although, at some point I had to withdraw a little from some spiritual groups because my commitment was dropping due to time constraints and I put in my all into a select few.

I had to be extra deliberate on my time management.

Dupe: Okay.

Now as a working class woman, has anything changed?

Sandra Areh: A PA job is all encompassing and very demanding. I only have a resumption time but I don’t have a closing time.

Dupe: Wow! How do you cope with this?

Sandra Areh: First thing I did was ensure that my employer is fully aware of my commitment to God and His Kingdom.

Dupe: Hmmm…

Sandra Areh: Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition. Secondly, my major responsibilities in church are mainly during the weekends and I work only from Monday-Friday except on rare occasions where I’m called upon to do a few things or when I travel because my job also involves traveling.

I also take advantage of church online, this I do very well.

For instance, when I cannot meet up with mid-week services, I follow online or if I’m going to be late still follow up till I get to church.

I take advantage of my night times to pray and listen to messages.. Then I read books especially when I’m free in the office or at home too.

Dupe: “Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition” … Can you explain what you mean by this ↑?
Sandra Areh: It’s not enough to say you are a Christian, your attitude towards work and people speaks loudly. Diligence, integrity, respect, love, selflessness and more.

For instance, Godly virtues gave me opportunity to request for leave to attend a Bible school and it was granted with all joy… Even during the period I did one or two things for my Boss and He really appreciated it.

Dupe: Wow. That’s amazing. You’re a very busy woman, do you get enough time for yourself?

Sandra Areh: I do some times.

Dupe: Is it necessary for a young woman encumbered with a lot of activities to look good?

Sandra Areh: Absolutely! Planning is the key.

Dupe: Does one have to spend too much time on one’s self to look good?

Sandra Areh: I don’t think so. I think knowing what suits will save you much time and meeting the right people/professionals. For instance, if you go to a good saloon, the professional stylist will know what will fit the shape of your face complexion and do their job.

Dupe: Yes. Knowing what works for you will save you time and energy.

Sandra Areh: Like scripture puts it, “everyone should abide in their calling ” *laughs*.

Dupe: ?

Ladies are engaged in a lot of things; considering this, do you think we can do as much as men do for God?

Sandra Areh: Yes. I believe in the power of prioritizing and delegation… You can not do everything. Do what is most important and delegate the rest to the right people.

Dupe: Beautiful.. What are the things that should be dropped in order to fully concentrate on important things?

Sandra Areh: Well, this differs from person to person… You’d have to define what is important and give it time. God, your relationship(s), career/business etc.

Dupe: Do you have any role model or woman you look up to?

Sandra Areh: Yes I do. Lots of them oo.

Dupe: Can we know some of them?

Sandra Areh: Just women right??

Dupe: Yes, just women

Sandra Areh: Pst(Mrs) Faith Oyedepo, Dr (Mrs) Becky Eneche, Pst(Mrs) Funke Adejumo, Pst(Mrs) Modele Fatoyinbo, Pst(Mrs) Opi Agha and more…

Dupe: Wow, great women.

Sandra Areh: Yes, they are…

Dupe: Do you have any word of advice for ladies in pursuit of God and purpose?

Sandra Areh: God is the Ultimate, hold unto Him tighter than any other thing. God first and He’ll compel other things to follow.

Dupe: Wow! Thank you so much for your time ma.

We hope to see more of you.

Sandra Areh: ? My pleasure darling. God Bless you!

Dupe: Bless you too ma

Connect with Miss Sandra Areh on

Facebook : Sandre Areh
Instagram: Hada_doxa

And leave your thoughts and comments below ?.

Posted on August 31, 2017 by Mo' — 5 Comments

Cramps ; 5 Ways to mitigate them.

The menstrual cycle is a very big part of every lady’s life.

Our cycle comes with certain symptoms, pain or uneasiness known as premenstrual syndrome (PMS), MP (Menstrual pain) or menstrual cramps.

Ladies, it’s no rocket science, it’s just you, feeling your uterus contract to shed its lining.

This pain comes at different times, depending on the individual.

For some, it comes days before, (PMS) informing them of the arrival of the cycle. While for others, it may come during or even after.

It could be devastating and although it differs from girl to girl, it’s usually not too nice on anyone. Some ladies don’t feel cramps too much because the pain is quite mild on them and they can manage or ignore it. While others can not.

Years ago, I read about a lady whose cramps were so bad that she’d miss exams due to pain. She’d stay at a spot and any slight movement could cause her serious pain. I also had a roommate who groans all through her menstrual days.

Certain things also accompany menstrual pain, like Abdominal bloating, Headache (including migraine), Irritability, Pains, especially backache, Depression, Feeling generally emotional or troubled, Insomnia, Lack of concentration, Breast tenderness or swelling, Slight weight gain, Binge eating, restlessness, cravings and so on.

The pain could be very severe, So you may not get the best of a lady during her cycle, depending on how hard it is on her. In all of these, there are still ways to alleviate the pain. (These are just alleviation methods so if pain persists, see a physician or gynecologist).

I’ve brought out 5 simple ways..

5 Ways To Mitigate Menstrual Cramps

Exercise; Exercise is generally very good for the body to shed excess fat and to keep fit. During menstruation however, it helps even more in that it loosens up your muscles and eases the pain. So a jog down the road, a fast walk in the early hours of the morning, riding a bicycle, doing stretches and aerobics go a long way in mitigating pain and keeping you healthy during your period. A warm bath afterwards is also very important. (Warms baths should be taken regularly during periods).
Eat healthy; Less fats, sweets and Carbs, more Vegetables and fruits. “A low-fat diet actually decreases overall levels of inflammation in the body,” says Aldo Palmieri MD , an ob/gyn at UCLA Health and professor of ob/gyn at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine in Los Angeles. A low-fat, vegetarian diet not only helps your health generally, says Dr. Palmieri, but it can have an indirect yet noticeable effect on menstrual cramps, too.
Rub your lower tummy; Using certain aromatic essential oils and massage can also relieve menstrual cramp pain, according to a study published in May 2012 in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Research. You can also use a bottle of warm water. Self massaging helps relax the muscles.
Eat chocolate; Yes eat chocolate. But note. “CHOCOLATE” not “CHOCOLATES” The last thing you need is excess glucose. A bar of chocolate won’t hurt. Dark chocolate to be precise because it contains caffeine, ion, magnesium and potassium and helps to reduce stress, boost mood, reduce pain, improve skin, reduce muscle cramps and relieve aching muscles.
Pop a Safe Painkiller; I made this the last because not everyone is comfortable with taking pain killers. So if the above methods helped, this can be ignored but moderate use of a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory medication (NSAID), such as ibuprofen or naproxen, can help.