How to Host a Long-Term Guest in your Home Without Killing Anybody.

There comes a time when someone has to share our space. Be it our homes, hostels, or rooms for days, weeks or even months.

A lot of people love their privacy and space. Many individuals and homes would rather have their house all to themselves without an “intruder” but unfortunately, once in awhile, we all have to allow people into our space, especially in Africa where relationships are valued and the extended family is held with high esteem.

You may have to accommodate a cousin, an in-law, an aunt, uncle or a close family friend.

Hosting guests may not be an issue but hosting long-term guests in your home could pose as a threat to your peace of mind.

Some guests cause little or no problem while others could be catastrophic hence the need to read this post.

Plan.

You must get ready physically and mentally. Resources and materials must be provided for your guests to avoid awkwardness but even greater is the mental preparation.

You must culture your mind to accept that for the period of the visit, you don’t have your space all to yourself especially if you’re one who loves privacy.

You must develop a shock absorber because your guest may do things a little bit differently from what you’re used to.

You must prepare for annoying things like using your stuff and wasting or misusing your valuable possessions.

Patience must become your bosom friend bearing at the back of your mind that this person probably has a different orientation from you and does things differently.

Set House Rules and Boundaries from the Beginning

If a person is going to be housed by you for a period of time, there has to be a correlation in your lifestyles.

A pidgin proverb says;

Feel at home” Na him him dey make your neighbor spoil your tv”

Simply explained to mean “Too much indulgence and access gives room for misbehavior

You must set house rules on things like noise, coming home late, manner of speaking (especially if you have kids), smoking, drinking and other vices.

Anyone staying under your roof should be willing to adhere to your rules.

Speak

Keeping mum will damage a lot of things.

You must speak up and explain things like how you do things in your house and what you don’t like.

Communicate politely with your guest, making them understand the pattern in your house.

Correction done in the right way saves everyone stress.

Don’t Stress

“Lean on me no be press me inside wall”.

You will have to make sacrifices sometimes for the comfort of your guest but you don’t have to outdo yourself. An understanding guest should endure when things aren’t too easy.

See it as an Opportunity to Learn

Living with people (especially those that aren’t family) teaches you a lot of things.

Being hospitable and welcoming is a very great virtue but you can’t do that unless you are open to embrace different ways of living.

The period of your guest’s visit is a time for you to learn their perspective and approach to things. It is also a time for you to learn how to celebrate good habits and tolerate and manage bad ones.

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13 Comments

  1. The many sides to the blogger. Thank you for teaching us to be hospitable and better host.
    This one got me “Feel at home” Na him him dey make your neighbor spoil your tv”😀😁😂

  2. The title made me rishbon to read! Hahaha you got me with this post. I moved into a new state and have been living with my friend for the past 5months. I have never been comfortable for one day though we’re very close.

    I gave myself until July ending. Now I’m frantically making quick steps to move out. Whether she’s pleased with my presence and she’s loves having me around, it doesn’t matter. I’m having to make rash decisions that’ll make me leave her home before next weekend.

    This tips are highly useful for people who has others living with them

    1. Awwwn! I’m so glad you read.
      Wow. I can imagine what it’s like. Staying with someone could be very unbearable too. I should make a post how to successfully stay with someone without killing the person lol! 😂😂😂
      Seriously tho, I hope you find a comfortable place of your own soon but meanwhile, just be patient.

      Thanks for reading Oluchi ❣😚

  3. You just keep making me happy…I wish everyday could be a Friday simply because of Dupe’s blog. I am going to ensure I’m the first reader of “How to successfully stay with someone without killing the person.”
    I love your blog totally.

  4. You just keep making me happy…I wish everyday could be a Friday simply because of Dupe’s blog. I am going to ensure I’m the first reader of “How to successfully stay with someone without killing the person.

  5. Nice post, it’s good you give yourself a personal checkup every once in a while though.

    You just thought me that.

    Good job.🙌🙌🙌

  6. Nice post, it’s good you give yourself a personal checkup every once in a while though.

    You just thought me that.

    Good job.🙌🙌🙌

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