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Posted on April 13, 2018June 6, 2018 by Mo' — 2 Comments

10 of my Most Popular Blogposts

I wouldn’t be called a blogger if I didn’t have readers. My blog readers mean everything to me which is why I made a compilation of some of the posts on my blog that got the highest views and comments. The posts you guys loved the most.

This list is for you to feel the joy you felt the first time you read the blog post and for people who haven’t read these posts before. At the same time, the list is important to me because it helps me identify my audience and know what they want to read which will help me serve you all better.

I recommend this post for bloggers also to get blog post ideas and inspiration.

These are not necessarily the best posts on the blog but they’re definitely part of the best and are worth reading over and over again.

Don’t forget to share any post you love with your friends.

1. 5 things I love about my Spiritual Father (Apostle Joshua Selman)

This post isn’t a very updated one because it was published last year June and I didn’t get to write everything I wanted to or express myself well. Plus, I have more to write about him now so I’m definitely going to make an updated post about him. But I’m amazed at the views this post got and I’m glad people found it interesting so click Here to read it again. ❤

2. Regrets – My Story

This is also a post from last year that got a lot of views. In this post, I shared a story of something that happened to me and how it brought regrets. I addressed the fact that we need to get over things we’ve done wrongly and encourage ourselves. You won’t regret reading it again Click here to do so

3. 10 amazing Marriages I follow and Lessons I’ve learnt.

The views on this post blew my mind! Turns out my audience also love what I love and that’s quite exciting 😍😊.

Read the post to know the marriages I follow and why.

4. Interview with Sandra Areh – The Fabulous Godfearing Career Woman

This is one of the most popular posts on my blog and I am not surprised as anyone who reads it gets blessed. In this post, I interviewed a very successful Godly woman who I greatly admire on being fabulous, loving God and being in school/working.

I greatly recommend this one. Click here to read.

5. 20 facts about me

This was the first post I made after I opened a Facebook page for my blog. It was an attempt to make my blog readers know me better. Soon, I will make another post to share things many people don’t know about me but for now, enjoy this one.

6. 15 lessons from my Proverbial Girl Devotional

The Proverbial Girl is a devotional that blessed me last year. In this post, I extracted 15 lessons from the devotional for ladies.

Personally, this post was a blessing to me so I wasn’t surprised that it got a lot of views too.

It is a post for ladies but everyone should read it. No knowledge is wasted.

Black Girl Magic || Interview with Ene Elizabeth Adeka

Melanin Monroe – BLACK GIRL MAGIC

The Melanin in our Skin. The Plumpness of our Lips. The Honey of our Eyes. The Span of our Hips. The Shine in our Smiles. The Power in our Gentle Minds. The Care in our Hands. The Love in our Hearts. Makes us Queens ♥

-Anonymous

Ene Elizabeth Adeka of Black Safaya 🔥 is an experienced freelance creative writer, content planner and blog editor. She offers ghost writing, editing, coaching and proofreading services. Ene is also the chief editor of Black Safaya a one stop SOLUTION to all your writing needs.

On this month’s episode of Black Girl Magic, Ene is pouring out from her intellectual pool to us on Quality Relationships. What are they? How do they help the black girl and how does she maintain them?

Enjoy the read Queens ♛

Dupe: Welcome to Dupe’s Blog ma’am, can we meet you?

Ene Elizabeth: My name is Ene Elizabeth Adeka
I am a freelance writer, author, blogger (www.blacksafaya.com) and web content developer. I provide ghost writing, coaching, proofreading and editing services. I have written hundreds of SEO articles for blogs across the globe, and published a number of books for independent authors and organizations.

An avid lover of poetry, I spend my leisure time writing free verses (a hobby I am excellent at), sometimes performing my poems or speaking to youths about the importance of the pursuit of purpose.

Dupe: What do you think about the black girl?
Ene Elizabeth: I think she’s a concept that has been overrated and at the same time under-emphasized.
Overrated because she’s a girl, prone to have her skirts blown in all directions by every wind of change, prone to emotional and financial downturns like any other and just another individual trying to find herself in a world where the slightest wrong turn can get you lost forever.

Underemphasized because the opportunities, treasures and limitless abilities that lie beneath the skin remains untapped most of her life. She’s almost like a seed planted in the earth, until she is cultivated by the right hand and just the right amount of water and sunshine, she remains what she is: a seed. You know what they say about a seed…until it buds and bring forth, nobody benefits from it.

Dupe: Interesting. Do you love being a black girl?
Ene Elizabeth: *Laughs* that’s a yes and no question. Yes because frankly, I don’t think any other colour would suit me better than the one I’m painted in already. So if you’re asking whether I’m comfortable with my skin colour, then yes.

No, because everything I do seems to be judged from that perspective. Chimamanda is still subliminally the “black girl”who stunned the world with an unconventional approach to contemporary prose writing.

Black first judges you before it gives you a seat on the table, black first seizes you up before you even have a chance to present your case but then I think the irony here is black always has an element of surprise in it especially when it wants to “clear your doubts. ”

I love being a black girl actually.

Dupe: What’s your definition of Quality Relationships? Or What kind of relationships do you consider quality?
Ene Elizabeth: Relationships that motivates you to aspire for more, inspire you to do even more and set your passions on fire.
Personally, I rate the quality of my relationships by how well I write after I must have spent an appreciable amount of time with people. I believe I am spending irrecoverable minutes of my life not spending time.

Dupe: Hmmm! How have quality relationships helped you?
Ene Elizabeth: I have classified my relationships into three:

The ones I submit to

The ones in which we are equals

The ones who look up to me.

My life is a summary of quality relationships. I believe to be successful you have got to identify people who have gone ahead of you, become successful against all odds and have earned the right through their results, convictions and outspoken principles to lead you by the hand, you have also got to identify people who are at the same level where you are, regularly converse and fellowship with them and learn from them and finally remember the ones who look up to you and feel a sense of responsibility towards them.

I have writers I look up to, I know writers I am friends with and I know writers who want to be like me. These are three different levels of relationships entirely.

Dupe: Wow! Why does the black girl need quality relationships?
Ene Elizabeth: Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth Iron. I’ll explain. When two or more people sit together, an exchange occurs through consistent contact…what you see, interact with and consistently fellowship with, you become. It’s an uncomfortable truth that the black girl although surrounded by many stellar examples has little or no interest in becoming like someone who has gone ahead of her. Yes, we want to pioneer new ways, explore horizons yet undiscovered and be the next big thing. However, we need to be guided, taught and handed over the so called “cliché ” we seem to have discarded. I said iron sharpens iron because quality relationships will make you a “quality” person.

Dupe: How can the black girl identify quality relationships that she needs?
Ene Elizabeth: Any individual whose family life, finances, personal life and relationship resonates with your aspirations and ambitions in life is a potential quality relationship until proven otherwise.
Potential quality relationship worth exploring, investing in and willing to learn from until proven otherwise

Dupe: How can she maintain such relationships?
Ene Elizabeth: 1.Honour, which in other words is the unashamed recognition, celebration and worthy acknowledgement of their perceived value. It could be through words, actions or thoughtful gifts.

2. Aspiring to be the words you have heard them speak and becoming the individuals you’ve seen them become.

Dupe: Amazing..
It has truly been an enlightening time with you.
You’re greatly appreciated…
Thank you.
Ene Elizabeth: Thank you Dupe

There you have it ladies, Identify Quality Relationships, invest on them and make the best out of them…

See you next week xoxo.

Posted on March 23, 2018August 19, 2018 by Mo' — 9 Comments

My Life Lately – Imperfect Christian.

Hey guys!

Currently I am listening to Love is war by Hillsong
Turn my eyes to see Your face
As all my fears surrender
Hold my heart within this grace
Where burden turns to wonder…

It’s break time before my next test and I’m currently in class putting this down because I know I may be unable to afford the luxury of time later on. One of the purposes of this blog is to share my day to day challenges, how the Holy Spirit helps me overcome them and the lessons He teaches me from them.

I write tests almost everyday now and so this is my current state

My current state

It’s only natural to want to intensely study for the closest test but there’s always this imbalance it creates; trying to be careful for the closest test or for the test on the “more” important course, you intensely focus on it almost forgetting the others which can affect you. Yesterday, my reading partner Kabiru said “Sarah try not to prioritize, it could be dangerous” so I’m currently learning how to balance reading for every course at the same time so I don’t excel at some courses and find myself struggling at others. This alone is a word of deliverance for a student today Hallelujah! *lol*.

Some days back, I took a practical test on Osteology (Study of bones) which I had really studied and prepared for, but few hours before the test, the devil trued to sweep a wave of depression over me. I felt discouraged and too weak to read anything so I went into the ladies’ dressing room (now I know I shouldn’t have) to revise and rest before entering the laboratory for the test.

Few minutes after I had entered, some ladies came in and began saying certain things that were discouraging. Have you ever been around people who aren’t as “serious” as you are about God and their speech made you feel like a fool for “carrying God on your head”?

That was my situation. The ladies (Christians) began speaking about people who were too serious about God and how they still aren’t the best pupils and some of them were even failing in school. They said so many things that really affected me because I couldn’t understand why Christians would speak in such manner. In no time, I became depressed and uncomfortable.

It was just few minutes to my test and I regretted remaining in the room with them. You see, your atmosphere is very important. Some atmospheres carry certain things that you don’t want so you need to be very careful who you stay around and what you listen to.

You have to be very stingy with your inner ears lest you permit the wrong information in.

I was tensed, I couldn’t revise anymore and I seem to have magically forgotten everything I read so I got up, put on my lab coat and said a short prayer then I walked to the lab. I took the test, still unsettled and I forgot the name of many structures as a result.

I was devastated after the test. I knew I had studied and prepared but few minutes in the wrong atmosphere ruined everything.

The next morning, my lecturer came in and to worsen my situation, he started saying the answers to the questions of the test which I knew I didn’t write.

After the class, I went out and spoke with Sadiya and told her I wrote rubbish in my tests and she said (I paraphrase)

“The rubbish you wrote is none of your business. You studied, prayed and wrote, you have done your part. Insist that your result be excellent whether you wrote the right thing or not. The bible said “Study to show thyself approved” not “Study and make sure you remember and write everything correctly”. Besides I wrote this same practical test last year and had a 24% but I still made up in other tests and passed the course while others who seemed to have excelled in the practical test failed the course generally and have to take it again this year. Be very confident, you have done your part, you won’t just scale through but you’ll have an excellent result”.

You need godly friends around you; I can’t stress this enough. Surround yourself with a kingdom community of friends.

Sadiya’s words birthed this post because as at that point, I was clueless on what post to make today. So this post is dedicated first to Sadiya then to every Christian struggling with becoming the best at work, career, projects or life generally.

The fact that we’re Christians does not mean we get it right all the time. That we love and serve God faithfully doesn’t mean we won’t make extremely foolish mistakes. We’ve submitted ourselves totally to God but we’re still human and the flesh is tricky.If we have it all together all the time, where does Grace come in?

So when we fall and fail, don’t laugh at us just yet because we have the backing of the host of heaven and our come back will be greater than our setback.

I’ve learnt this and it has brought me to a point where I totally trust God and am confident in my relationship with him.

So even when I make mistakes, I don’t dwell on them and make them mountains, instead I see them as open doors for Grace to step in and work and if at the end of the day I don’t get the expected result, I’m still at peace because we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Currently I am trusting God for a new phone because my phone is going bad and I feel like God intentionally shut all the channels I thought the phone would come from bringing me to a point where my trust is only in Him.

Currently, I am slaying in mom jeans.

Finally, I’m currently spreading the love of Jesus to people around me. I just find myself blessing people financially, with God’s love and with God’s Word, children and adults alike.

I did a few things yesterday that felt really good;

I stopped two children from fighting and made them friends again just by telling them Jesus didn’t want them to fight. They apologized to each other and said “Thank you aunty”. My heart melted.

I also paid transport fare for children going home from school who didn’t have enough and wanted to walk all the way and
I shared God’s Word with a classmate and spoke to him about how interested Jesus is in his personal life and he made the decision to delete secular songs from his phone and get songs from me today.

These things matter very much to me because one of my prayers last week was that God helped me genuinely love and care for people and to effectively express His love for me to them.

What are you currently doing?

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See you guys next week.

Love, Mo’

❤