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Single on Valentine’s? How to spend Valentine’s Day alone

Have you been wondering how to spend Valentine’s Day alone?

Yes, it’s Cupid season and love is everywhere in the air, it’s almost palpable.
Everything is in pair now, even your socks.
For a single person, this can be frustrating because everywhere you look, you seem to be reminded of the fact that you’re not in a relationship or married.

However, I’m here to tell you that being single on Valentine’s day can actually be a very very great thing.
Remember what they say about life being 5% what happens to you and 95% how you react and handle it? Yes. Being single on Valentine’s day is a normal thing happening to tons of people around the world right now.

You can either make it something to be very angry and frustrated about or something really amazing for yourself.
It’s all about how you handle it.

So if you’ve been upset about spending Valentine’s Day alone, maybe you need to change your perspective to it all. And I’m here to help you with that.

Being single on Valentine’s day may not actually be as bad as you think. Besides, it is better to be alone and single on Valentine’s than to be in a toxic relationship that is not good for you.

So whether you’re spending Valentine’s Day alone because you’re single or because your partner is very far away, these tips below will help you make the most of the day and spend it happy.

How to spend Valentine’s Day alone

1. Refuse to be intimidated
You have to be intentional about not letting pictures of couples and love posts everywhere on social media get to you. The pressure is real so you must create systems to ensure you’re not under unnecessary pressure.

If social media gets to you easily and throws you into unhealthy competition and comparison, then you should regulate your social media consumption for that day.
Don’t continue scrolling through the “From me and mine” posts on Instagram or you’ll soon find yourself calling your toxic ex and making a terrible mistake.

2. You are your lover
If you had a lover, what would you do for them? Take them out? Buy presents, say sweet words to them? Reassure them of your love and commitment to them?
Write these down and do them for yourself!

You are responsible for your own happiness. Make yourself happy by doing everything you would have done for your partner or you would have wanted your partner to do for you.

Take care of yourself and shower all the love on you.

3. Self care
This is continuation of the point above.
You have to use February 14th to take care of yourself. You can do this in many ways; organize a spa day for yourself at home, order some of your favorite snacks and drinks, do some of your favorite aerobics workout, get some sleep, see a nice comedy movie, do something for you!

4. Call your loved ones.
What better day is there to reach out to your loved ones than a day of love? Call your siblings, friends, cousins, parents. Make a video call and catch up with them.

5. Give
Love is expressed through giving. You can plan ahead and get presents for the people in your life. You don’t have to be in a relationship to get presents for someone on Valentine’s day.
That purse your sister has always wanted? Get it for her.
That toy your baby cousin loves, get it for them. Buy presents for your parents, get something nice for your neighbor, give some cash present to your security man.
Let people around you feel love.

6. Organize a get together with your other single friends
You’d be surprised that you are not as alone as you thought. You have 3 or 4 friends who are also wondering how to spend Valentine’s Day alone. Reach out to them and ask if they’d be free to attend a get together. Plan something small at a great location, preferably one of you’s houses. Going to a restaurant may not be a great idea because of the number of paired up people that will be everywhere.
Plan the get together for your friends place or your place and make it fun.

7. Start something new
Sometimes, the greatest things in our lives are started “accidentally”. Some days ago, I read of a millionaire blogger who started her blog some years ago on Valentine’s day because her husband was far away and she was alone on Valentine’s day.
She decided to try something new and viola! This “something new” is now a full time job that pays well.
This year’s Valentine’s may just be what you need to get started on that idea.

8. Volunteer, support, and spread love
You’re not the only one spending Valentine’s alone. There are people out there who are not receiving love from anyone at all. People in orphanages, shelters, hospitals.
You can use that day to visit them, show them love, and make them smile.

You can also support small businesses around you, if it is within your means. Patronize me by buying my love and gratitude journal to document the great things in your life that you’re grateful for.
Volunteer. Support. Give love.

9. Spend time with God.
This is actually the best way to spend Valentine’s Day. You may not agree but it is.
Have you been struggling to create time for your quiet time? February 14th is here. Use it!
God loves you and would love to go on a date with you on Valentine’s day.
Make Jesus Christ your Val.

You don’t have to be sad and depressed just because you’re alone on Valentine’s day. You can be the happiest person.

Understanding that no one ka responsible for your happiness is key. Get hold of this understanding and let it make you look inward more.
Try some of the ideas I shared above and create for yourself the best Valentine’s Day yet.