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What Does The Bible Say About Gossiping?

What Does The Bible Say About Gossiping?

Proverbs 16:28, “A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.” – [Amplified Bible] What does the Bible say about gossiping? Let’s talk about it.

Simi was on her way to Debbie’s room so they could go to fellowship together. They used the time to catch up on happenings in school and any latest “gist” that was available. And Simi had the perfect ‘gist’ for Debbie.

“Debs, what’s up? You won’t believe what I saw today,” Simi said as soon as Debbie let her in.

Debbie was immediately interested as usual. “Really, what happened?”

“You won’t believe what I saw Sis Amara doing today.”

This is usually how gossip starts. But just what is gossip in the Bible and why does the mention of it stir guilt among a lot of Christians? Is gossip a sin? What does the Bible say about a gossiping woman?

First of all, let’s find out what is gossiping in the Bible. We can find lots of scriptures concerning gossiping in the book of proverbs.

What does God say about gossiping in proverbs? 

Proverbs 10:18, “Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool.”

“With their mouths the godless destroy their neighbors, but through knowledge the righteous escape.” Proverbs 11:9

Proverbs 11:13, “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

“Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” Proverbs 17:9

Proverbs 18:8, “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.”

“A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.” Proverbs 20:19

A gossip is someone who has privileged information about a person and shares that information with others who have no business knowing it. 

Gossiping is one of the easiest sins to fall into. You may be wondering what the types of gossip in the bible are, they’re not outlined but gossip comes in many carefully disguised forms: spreading rumors, sharing opinions, venting, seeking advice. For some reason, it’s so thrilling to hear a piece of information about someone that the rest of the world doesn’t know! 

The subtle act of gossip is often disguised as a friendly invitation for fellowship but hides a dangerous disease inside. Gossip is like a cancer, spreading like wildfire everywhere.

So what does the Bible say about gossiping about others? Let’s have a look at a few reasons why gossiping is bad for us as believers and why God hates gossip. 

Biblical Consequences of Gossiping

What are the Biblical consequences of gossiping?

1. Gossip Causes Division

Surely, you must have experienced how tough it is to rebuild trust after it has been broken. Surely, you remember a moment when a close friend spread a rumor about you behind your back. How terrible to discover that someone you trusted lied about you or revealed a secret they pledged to keep? The friendship was probably never the same after that.

Gossip destroys trust and splits relationships, and the consequences of gossip is felt long after the words have been spoken.

Never forget that someone who gossips to you will gossip about you, and gossip never leaves any friendship the same. We have to learn how to respect our relationships and not fall into the trap of gossip.

2. Gossip is Poisonous.

How often have you heard a Christian insult a colleague with the same mouth that they praise Jesus with? As their talk tarnishes the reputation of the person they are chatting about, their own image is harmed. This betrayal sting casts a pall over the brightness of Jesus that is intended to shine from within us.

The Bible cautions us about the dangers of using our tongues in the wrong way, describing the human tongue as evil and poisonous (James 3:7-8). Those casual comments that fall from our lips have a long-term negative impact.

Speaking unkindly of others tarnishes their public image, and it presents an unflattering picture of the gossiper. Let us learn to control our words and use them properly.

3. Gossip is Foolish.

It is difficult and almost impossible to resist a discussion that has “interesting details”  about someone, but what do you get out of it? We often join a conversation just to feel included or to make small talk. However, there is no reward in pulling down or spreading rumors about another person.

We will be judged by our words(Matthew 12:36) this is what the Bible says and gossiping about others isn’t excluded! When we hear gossip, we have the option of being sensible and following Titus 3:1-2: โ€œRemind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone.โ€  That is how to handle gossip biblically. 

Let us choose to speak wisely and avoid silly small talk, allowing our words to reflect the Lord’s wisdom rather than that of a foolish person (Proverbs 1:7, Proverbs 10:18-21).

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It is not your job to Gossip and Find Faults in Others.

God did not make mankind to pass judgment on one another and point out each other’s flaws. The instruction from the Bible is to love one another, to treat people as we would like to be treated, and to love our neighbor as ourselves. Despite the fact that we have the right to free speech, God’s plan for you does not involve a scornful tongue (Galatians 5:13).

We are disobedient when we talk about others in a disparaging manner. Rather than tearing each other down and spreading false stories about people, God calls us to encourage and build each other up. (See 1 Thessalonians 5:11-12)

How to Handle Gossip Biblically.

So what should we do when we find ourselves in a place where people are gossiping? It’s so easy to say, “well, I’m not among them. It’s none of my business.” 

When we see someone in our circle gossiping, the Bible admonishes us to warn them twice and then avoid them. We are to correct them gently without condemning them, but if the chatter continues, it’s time to part ways with them. Remember that evil company corrupts good manners.

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It’s Not Worth It!

Even though gossip may be commonplace at school or at work, the Bible instructs us to refresh our minds with God’s will rather than the world’s (Romans 12:2). It’s tempting to engage in gossip, yet it only harms others (and ourselves). God’s purpose for us does not include bad words or deception. We were made in His image, therefore let’s not say anything on this side of forever that we wouldn’t say in Heaven.

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5 Christian Songs for Difficult Times

Today, we’re sharing Christian Songs for Difficult times because songs have a great way of making people feel better and process their emotions. Being a believer does not exactly immune you from challenges.

Although nobody prays to have them, challenges are a part of life. Sometimes these challenges are a direct result of our mistakes and inadequacies, other times, they’re a result of the actions of others, or they may just be part of our season of growth and training from God. These Christian Songs for Difficult times are sure to help you navigate through this season and make you connect with God even in the furnace.

Whether it is a process you’re going through or just a tough situation resulting from someone’s mistake, God causes every situation to work together for our good. God turns messes to messages and gives beauty for ashes.
As you listen to these songs and their powerful lyrics, let your heart reach out to God because he always has the best in mind for you.

Christian Songs for Difficult Times


Another in the fire

There is another in the fire
Standing next to me
There is another in the waters
Holding back the seas
And should I ever need reminding
What power set me free
There is a grave that holds no body
And now that power lives in me

Even If Mercy Me

They say sometimes you win some
Sometimes you lose some
And right now, right now I’m losing bad
I’ve stood on this stage night after night
Reminding the broken it’ll be alright
But right now, oh right now I just can’t
It’s easy to sing
When there’s nothing to bring me down
But what will I say
When I’m held to the flame
Like I am right now
I know You’re able and I know You can
Save through the fire with Your mighty hand
But even if You don’t
My hope is You alone

New wine

So I yield to You into Your careful hand
When I trust You I don’t need to understand
Make me Your vessel
Make me an offering
Make me whatever You want me to be
I came here with nothing
But all You have given me
Jesus bring new wine out of me

Trust in you Lauren Daigle

When You don’t move the mountains
I’m needing You to move
When You don’t part the waters
I wish I could walk through
When You don’t give the answers
As I cry out to You
I will trust, I will trust
I will trust in You

Song of Ascent – Hillsong

‘Cause in the highlands and the heartache
You’re neither more or less inclined
I would search and stop at nothing
You’re just not that hard to find
I will praise on the mountain
And I will praise you when the mountain is in my way
You’re the summit where my feet are
So I will praise You in the valleys all the same
No less God within the shadows
No less faithful when the night leads me astray
‘Cause You’re the heaven where my heart is
In the highlands and the heartache all the same
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31 PRAYERS AND DECLARATIONS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND SPOUSE || FOR SINGLES AND MARRIED

DECLARATIONS OVER YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR SPOUSE

I declare in the name of Jesus that my husband/wife will love God with all their heart. (Mark 12:30)

I decree and declare that I will never walk on egg shells in my home. I am comfortable with my spouse and we are at peace and ease with each other in Jesus name.

My spouse and I will not grow apart. We will grow together in love, God, and other areas of life in Jesus name.

Infidelity, lack of trust and deceit is far from my home. Satan, be gone from my family! Jesus is King over this home.

I decree that my husband/wife’s body will please me. I will be attracted to them and never lose my interest in them.
We will both be disciplined to do all it takes to remain healthy, and attractive.

I declare in the name of Jesus that my husband/wife will find happiness in work.
(Ecc. 2:24)


I decree and declare that my spouse is planted by the brooks of bliss. Our soul is steeped in the rivers of blessings. Our roots are deep and our leaves are green. We are fresh and flourishing.


I declare in the name of Jesus that my wife/husband will be kept safe from temptation. (Matt. 6:13)

I decree and declare that my husband/wife has divine and good health.
(3 John 1:2)


I decree and declare that I will become the wife (husband) (s)he needs me to be. (Prov. 31:10)


I decree and declare that my wife/husband will grow in faith.
(Eph. 3:16-19)

I decree and declare that we, as a couple will be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger in the name of Jesus.(James 1:19-20)

I decree and declare that my wife/husband has deep happiness.
(Ecc. 3:12-13)

I decree and declare that we, as a couple will be content (Heb. 13:5-6)

I decree and declare that we will love God with all our heart. (Mark 12:30)

In Jesus name, Amen.



PRAYERS OVER YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR SPOUSE


Father Lord,
Thank you for the life of my (future) wife/husband.
Please strengthen them when they’re weak
And grant them peace and clarity in
life in Jesus name.

Father, please give my husband peace of mind as he deals with the stresses of life. Give him clarity & wisdom as he makes decisions for himself & our family.

Help my wife to rely on you alone no matter what challenges life throws at her.

Lord, order their steps daily. Remind them that no matter what comes their way, you Lord are able to help them.

Father, surround my spouse with the right influences. Let them be in the right company always.

I pray for my (future) partner’s business or career. I may not know who (s)he is or what (s)he does, but Lord, you do.
Please give him/her the courage to move
forward in life. Help him/her in their struggles and be their strength.

Father, I pray that you bless the work of their hands. If (s)he doesn’t have anything to do at the moment that you Lord will help him find something profitable to do.

Lord, direct him/her on the right path to finding a career. If (s)he’s already working, I pray that you will establish his/her work.
Help him/her to be diligent and hardworking
Bless what (s)he does and let it be fruitful. In Jesus’ name.

Father, strengthen his/her desire to grow and develop in you, to spend time in your presence, and to walk in obedience to your word.

In everything, be by his/her side and remind him/her that (s)he’s not alone. And you are always with him/her.

Help him/her to grow in faith no matter
what comes his/her way.

Lord, bless him/her in everything and in
every way. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Lord, help us see the good in one another. Help us stay committed to each other. Help me put my spouse’s needs first.
Help us show humility when we
disagree and to keep our priorities straight


Father, bless our physical health so we
can serve You more.

Lord, guide our future decisions for Your
glory. Help us respect one another and help us display honesty always.

Help us teach our children Your
ways and help us deepen our friendship.

Help us love You above all else!