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I declare in the name of Jesus that my husband/wife will love God with all their heart. (Mark 12:30)

I decree and declare that I will never walk on egg shells in my home. I am comfortable with my spouse and we are at peace and ease with each other in Jesus name.

My spouse and I will not grow apart. We will grow together in love, God, and other areas of life in Jesus name.

Infidelity, lack of trust and deceit is far from my home. Satan, be gone from my family! Jesus is King over this home.

I decree that my husband/wife’s body will please me. I will be attracted to them and never lose my interest in them.
We will both be disciplined to do all it takes to remain healthy, and attractive.

I declare in the name of Jesus that my husband/wife will find happiness in work.
(Ecc. 2:24)

I decree and declare that my spouse is planted by the brooks of bliss. Our soul is steeped in the rivers of blessings. Our roots are deep and our leaves are green. We are fresh and flourishing.

I declare in the name of Jesus that my wife/husband will be kept safe from temptation. (Matt. 6:13)

I decree and declare that my husband/wife has divine and good health.
(3 John 1:2)

I decree and declare that I will become the wife (husband) (s)he needs me to be. (Prov. 31:10)

I decree and declare that my wife/husband will grow in faith.
(Eph. 3:16-19)

I decree and declare that we, as a couple will be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger in the name of Jesus.(James 1:19-20)

I decree and declare that my wife/husband has deep happiness.
(Ecc. 3:12-13)

I decree and declare that we, as a couple will be content (Heb. 13:5-6)

I decree and declare that we will love God with all our heart. (Mark 12:30)

In Jesus name, Amen.


Father Lord,
Thank you for the life of my (future) wife/husband.
Please strengthen them when they’re weak
And grant them peace and clarity in
life in Jesus name.

Father, please give my husband peace of mind as he deals with the stresses of life. Give him clarity & wisdom as he makes decisions for himself & our family.

Help my wife to rely on you alone no matter what challenges life throws at her.

Lord, order their steps daily. Remind them that no matter what comes their way, you Lord are able to help them.

Father, surround my spouse with the right influences. Let them be in the right company always.

I pray for my (future) partner’s business or career. I may not know who (s)he is or what (s)he does, but Lord, you do.
Please give him/her the courage to move
forward in life. Help him/her in their struggles and be their strength.

Father, I pray that you bless the work of their hands. If (s)he doesn’t have anything to do at the moment that you Lord will help him find something profitable to do.

Lord, direct him/her on the right path to finding a career. If (s)he’s already working, I pray that you will establish his/her work.
Help him/her to be diligent and hardworking
Bless what (s)he does and let it be fruitful. In Jesus’ name.

Father, strengthen his/her desire to grow and develop in you, to spend time in your presence, and to walk in obedience to your word.

In everything, be by his/her side and remind him/her that (s)he’s not alone. And you are always with him/her.

Help him/her to grow in faith no matter
what comes his/her way.

Lord, bless him/her in everything and in
every way. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Lord, help us see the good in one another. Help us stay committed to each other. Help me put my spouse’s needs first.
Help us show humility when we
disagree and to keep our priorities straight

Father, bless our physical health so we
can serve You more.

Lord, guide our future decisions for Your
glory. Help us respect one another and help us display honesty always.

Help us teach our children Your
ways and help us deepen our friendship.

Help us love You above all else!

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16 quotes from Why are marriages failing by Pastors Emmanuel and Laju Iren

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Pastor Emmanuel Iren of Celebration Church International, and his lovely wife Pastor Laju Iren did a LIVE video last week on Why are marriages failing.
These are two preachers that I absolutely love because of their soundness in communicating God’s Word.
I was so blessed by the video and took notes. I’ll leave the link to the video at the end of this post for those who want to watch.

The 16 quotes below are from the video Why are marriages failing by Pastor Emmanuel Iren and Pastor Laju Iren. Some of them are quoted verbatim, while others are not.

It is my prayer that you learn from these quotes and that you build a godly marriage and home that lasts.
May your home be built on Christ.

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16 quotes from Why are marriages failing by Pastor Emmanuel Iren and Pastor Laju Iren

Just because your faves marriage failed doesn’t mean marriage is bad.

If you both didn’t keep God’s commands about things like abstinence and faithfulness before marriage, don’t expect faithfulness from your partner after marriage. There’s nothing about marriage that puts the fear of God in you if you didn’t have it in the first place.

Marriage is everything sweet but it requires hard work.

Everytime you see a marriage working, people worked it.

“Happily ever after” is where the work begins.

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Unrealistic expectations is a primary reason why people don’t enjoy their marriages.

Make your expectations realistic.

The information that surrounds you greatly influences your mindset to, and expectations in marriage.

Surround yourself with the Word of God, materials on good marriages, and mentors who have good marriages.

God’s word is ultimate. Go into marriage with a mind that is full of the word of God and a willingness to do the work of forgiveness, changing, and learning communication.

Who you are outside your relationship or marriage is exactly who you’ll be in your relationship/marriage.

Marriage will only amplify who you really are.

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The fact that some marriages are failing should not scare you. It should rather make you realize that marriage is no joke.

Entering into a marriage without preparing and expecting it to be great is as ridiculous as wanting to practice as a medical doctor or engineer without training.

It takes time to learn how marriage works. Especially if you didn’t have many great examples.

Bad marriages exist and are a reality. But they must never be exalted above the truth of God’s Word that a marriage can be absolutely beautiful.

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Do I really want to get married? Does a believer have to get married? Let us have this honest conversation.

Apart from the fact that in Nigeria, once you conclude a certain level of formal education, you are expected to get married and start a family of your own, what other reason do you have for wanting to get married?

Last week, the thoughts of marriage filled my mind. It didn’t just sprout out of nowhere. It was initiated by different things; social media posts, wedding pictures everywhere, discussions with people, etc.

I had had a discussion with a senior colleague who was encouraging me to get married in school since I am running a 6-year course, the country is making it longer than 6 years already, and many of my mates aren’t waiting anymore. They’re getting married.

The conversation was an interesting one. This senior colleague of mine is a good conversationalist. He almost made me start considering getting married the next week because of the great points he raised and how fun he made marriage sound. He was very convincing. Lol.

It’s funny how this happened just last week. And this week, I am in an entirely different mental space. A space where I’m asking myself why I want to get married and if marriage is necessary.

Just last week, I wanted to tie the nuptial knot so bad. This week, I’m asking myself if I really want to do this marriage thing and why.

I honestly believe that it is super important for every single person to get to this point where they ask themselves this question and answer it honestly.

A young lady asked me a question sometime last year. She wanted to know if marriage was compulsory and if women have to get married to fulfil purpose. I answered in the negative of course. Giving her scriptural backing and examples.

The only thing that is a do or die affair is salvation. Not marriage.

Marriage is not a criteria or prerequisite for heaven.

Even purpose. Unless your purpose/assignment is directly linked to marriage, and having children, you can fulfil purpose without getting married.

Don’t get me wrong. Marriage is good, beautiful, and very beneficial. But not for everyone.

Marriage is a big deal. A huge one. An enormous commitment.

It requires a lot of intentionality, practical Christianity, and work.
Add this to the fact that a large percentage of women, especially in my part of the world, become worse versions of themselves when they get married. Was this God’s intention? Absolutely not.

Marriage is an adumbration of the union between Christ and the church. We know that that union is a beautiful one that benefits the bride in amazing ways.
But when we begin to see that the version of marriage around us is one that leaves us in a terrible state, we need to dissect it and look into it. And not just rush into it because it looks like what everyone is doing and what is expected of us.

Does a believer have to get married?

If you do not want to get married, scripture is clear on that. You do not have to.

But if you want to get married, I think it is really important for you to ask yourself why.

Why do I want to get married?
Answering this question will help you better prepare, plan, and choose a partner wisely.

Even though Apostle Paul recommends that people who desire marriage, get married so that they don’t “burn” (be consumed in passion, continually battle with lust), I think that sex should not be your only reason for getting married.

It just isn’t a strong enough reason.

Plus, making that your only or primary reason will cloud your judgement, make you hasty, and may leave you disappointed.

God created marriage for companionship, support, procreation, and intimacy.

But He didn’t say that marriage would be a walk in the park, without issues and differences. No, He didn’t.

In fact, in the first marriage that the Bible shows us, there were issues. Issues so big that led to our need for redemption.

If two people who had no parents, were created by God, and placed in the same garden could have differences to the point of throwing blames at each other, (Gen 3:12), it is not very wise to expect a perfect relationship void of differences with someone who has different parents, orientation, perspective, and personality from you.

Living with someone and choosing to be committed to them will be challenging sometimes. Apostle Paul stated one of his reasons for encouraging people to stay unmarried in 1 Corinthians 7:28 GNB.

Marriage is beautiful and can be very enjoyable but it can not complete or fulfil you, if you aren’t already complete in God and yourself.

It also comes with its responsibilities;
Do you want it?
Are you ready to put in the work?
Do you have someone worth going on that journey with? (Because trust me, not everyone is worth it. When you look closely at some people’s behavior, and tendencies, you’d rather remain single and burn than go on a lifelong commitment with them).

Do you want to get married? Tell me why in the comments below. If you don’t, I’d love to know why too!