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How I stopped Listening to Secular Music || The Origin and Power of Music and Sounds

How I stopped listening to Secular Music.

It’s foolishness to say you believe in Music and not in God or Spirits.

– Mo’

Please note that before I was finally able to stop completely, I tried and failed many times. When an idea has not become a conviction, it’s difficult to live by it. Determination and resolve are good but not enough to maintain such a stand.

Some years back, when I was gradually being drawn to Jesus, I was painfully brought to terms with the fact that I had to let go of certain things in my life.

Prior to then, I was always updated on anything music (secular). My friends and I always had the latest tracks on our devices both audio and video. I was having the time of my life or so I thought.

The kinds of songs we listened to were super catchy and captivating but something always puzzled me then; the songs got old very fast. A song could be released on a Monday and go viral so much that it was on everybody’s lips but by the next two or three Mondays, it would have become old to be replaced by another “cool music”.

For a long time, I continued like that, ignorantly.

The songs were always in my head. I subconsciously sang them even in my dreams.

I had the lyrics stored in my head and I gladly shared these songs with everyone who was interested. I had no idea how much those songs had affected me.

“Music cleanses the understanding, inspires it, and lifts it into a realm which it could not reach if it were left to itself.” — Henry War Beecher

Fast forward to much later, I began to get weary of the cool meaningless songs on my phone so I introduced gospel songs.

I challenged myself severally to get rid of the songs on my phone which were of no profit to me, songs that only painted terrible images in my head. This was hard for me mostly because of my association but God found a way to isolate me from the company I was in and I went through a thorough ” dark period” during which a lot of things happened and I met a friend/mentor who solidified the convictions I was gradually building. I had a three hour chat with this mentor and my life changed afterwards. Amongst the many things that happened to me was my deliverance from the connection I had with strange songs and sounds.

Truly, transformation of the mind is a great form of deliverance; until the ideas you have are replaced with better ones, you will never leave where you are.

I got tons of “Gospel songs” downloaded on my devices (most of which I was later to delete when I was able to discern which songs were actually gospel).

With the help of the Holy Spirit and discipline on my part, I was able to totally do away with every song that didn’t glorify God and looking back now, I wonder what made them appealing to me in the first place.

I then began to learn the power of music…

Music and Sounds

Almost every person on planet earth loves music, although music is said to have originated from Africa, people all over the world are now drawn to different kinds of music.

“Music is the mediator between the spiritual and the sensual life.” — Ludwig van Beethoven

Although, music could be defined as just sound organized in time which if not properly organized, becomes noise, there is a spiritual dimension to music.

Music and sounds are used for several purposes all over the world especially cultural and religious practices.

Music is powerful and can be used to invoke spirits ( through chants and dance), capture minds and even hypnotize people.

Music is directly related to spirits. There is hardly any spiritual practice that doesn’t involve music or sounds.

Because music carry spirits, the kind of music you listen to directly affects your intellect, psychology, emotions, behavior, mind and soul.

Music is the only medium that can transmit a man immediately from the physical realm of senses to the unseen realm. Music and sounds make us aware of the divine supernatural beings that are amongst us though unseen.

Some Christians are of the opinion that the kind of music you listen to does not affect your walk with God which is false because what invokes one spirit sends another away. A kind of music whose sound and lyrics invoke the spirit of lust or violence will definitely put off the Holy Spirit of God.

“Music should be healing; music should uplift the soul; music should inspire. There is no better way of getting closer to God, of rising higher towards the spirit, of attaining spiritual perfection than music, if only it is rightly understood.” — Hazrat Inayat Khan


People often ask me what kind of music is more spiritual: Is it Vedic mantras, Gregorian chant, devotional Bhajans, the great symphonies of Beethoven, traditional Gospel hymns, indigenous drums or even rock and roll? I usually respond by saying any music that helps reconnect us to our essence — to our inner and divine nature — is spiritual.
The spiritual nature of music cannot be defined by religion, culture or genre. Music precedes and transcends all of those frameworks. To even compare music and spirituality as if they were independent concepts feels a bit odd to me. Music is, at its essence, the sound of spirit.

Frank Fitzpatrick

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How to Host a Long-Term Guest in your Home Without Killing Anybody.

There comes a time when someone has to share our space. Be it our homes, hostels, or rooms for days, weeks or even months.

A lot of people love their privacy and space. Many individuals and homes would rather have their house all to themselves without an “intruder” but unfortunately, once in awhile, we all have to allow people into our space, especially in Africa where relationships are valued and the extended family is held with high esteem.

You may have to accommodate a cousin, an in-law, an aunt, uncle or a close family friend.

Hosting guests may not be an issue but hosting long-term guests in your home could pose as a threat to your peace of mind.

Some guests cause little or no problem while others could be catastrophic hence the need to read this post.

Plan.

You must get ready physically and mentally. Resources and materials must be provided for your guests to avoid awkwardness but even greater is the mental preparation.

You must culture your mind to accept that for the period of the visit, you don’t have your space all to yourself especially if you’re one who loves privacy.

You must develop a shock absorber because your guest may do things a little bit differently from what you’re used to.

You must prepare for annoying things like using your stuff and wasting or misusing your valuable possessions.

Patience must become your bosom friend bearing at the back of your mind that this person probably has a different orientation from you and does things differently.

Set House Rules and Boundaries from the Beginning

If a person is going to be housed by you for a period of time, there has to be a correlation in your lifestyles.

A pidgin proverb says;

Feel at home” Na him him dey make your neighbor spoil your tv”

Simply explained to mean “Too much indulgence and access gives room for misbehavior

You must set house rules on things like noise, coming home late, manner of speaking (especially if you have kids), smoking, drinking and other vices.

Anyone staying under your roof should be willing to adhere to your rules.

Speak

Keeping mum will damage a lot of things.

You must speak up and explain things like how you do things in your house and what you don’t like.

Communicate politely with your guest, making them understand the pattern in your house.

Correction done in the right way saves everyone stress.

Don’t Stress

“Lean on me no be press me inside wall”.

You will have to make sacrifices sometimes for the comfort of your guest but you don’t have to outdo yourself. An understanding guest should endure when things aren’t too easy.

See it as an Opportunity to Learn

Living with people (especially those that aren’t family) teaches you a lot of things.

Being hospitable and welcoming is a very great virtue but you can’t do that unless you are open to embrace different ways of living.

The period of your guest’s visit is a time for you to learn their perspective and approach to things. It is also a time for you to learn how to celebrate good habits and tolerate and manage bad ones.

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Aisha’s Dilemma || The Concluding Part.

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Aisha stared out of the window of her bedroom as she reminisced on the last two months of her marriage.

Life had been nothing short of hell for her ever since the night she became a Mrs.

The night her husband hit her. Her wedding night.

Aisha still did not understand what had happened that night.

Ahmed had called her a deceiver, saying she had deceived him into believing she was a virgin.

He accused her of living a promiscuous life before marriage and deceiving people that she was decent. He was furious and hit her saying he knew it was Umar who had taken her innocence.

Aisha had been dumfounded, utterly surprised. She had tried explaining to her husband that she hadn’t known any man before him but Ahmed didn’t seem to be listening.

That was the beginning of her predicament.

Ahmed would leave the house very early and come back very late. He detested her and hated the sight of her. He barley ate what she cooked.

Aisha didn’t know how to react to everything. She was very positive that she was still a virgin even though she hadn’t felt any pain on her first time with Ahmed and there had been no blood. She was confused as well but she didn’t think it was enough for him to react the way he did.

Ahmed had been surprised that his wife hadn’t fought back or even cried. She had deceived him after he bragged to his friends about how decent she was and how certain he was that she was a virgin only to go in to her and realize that there was neither pain nor blood.

He had hit her because he was angry but Aisha didn’t react.

Aisha had become numb to everything. She believed her worse had come to her when Umar left her. No fight was left in her. If this was how her life was meant to be, then so be it.

The sound of her phone ringing made Aisha snap out of her thoughts.

She picked it up still looking out of the window.

“Hello?”

“Aisha” She recognized the voice immediately. The voice that had been in her head every minute.

“Umar” Aisha replied, barely audible.

“How are you?”

For the first time in months, tears rolled down Aisha’s eyes. An aching she couldn’t explain gripped her heart.

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“Aisha, you had nothing to do with any man, not even me. We both agreed to wait until marriage. Why did your husband accuse you as such?”

Aisha was sitting at a restaurant with Umar. He had come into the city and called to ask if he could see her.

Aisha looked at the love of her life. Umar had become even more handsome. She fought tears as she looked at him. Why had life been this cruel to her?

“I have no idea, Umar. I’m glad you still trust me. Ahmed didn’t listen to anything I had to say. All he kept saying was my parents and I deceived him. He was convinced I wasn’t a virgin because he didn’t encounter a hymen…” Aisha said, looking down and straightening her dress.

“He must be an illiterate!” Umar was fuming.

“I think I want a divorce. I have a feeling he’ll get a second wife soon and it’ll become worse for me. I don’t want to be ridiculed”

“Aisha” Umar mouthed almost crying. “There’s something I need to tell you.”

Aisha looked up at him.

“I’m getting married next week. That’s why I came to see you”

Aisha’s heart dropped. The world around her began to spin. She had heard of people’s predicaments and troubles, but hers was a dilemma she couldn’t explain. So her Umar will be someone else’s husband?”

Umar continued “I’ll follow you and talk to your husband or I’ll get someone to talk to him. He needs to be educated on the biology of the female. Not every virgin has a hymen, they can lose it in the early years of their lives through different ways like intense exercise, lifting heavy loads, and so on. In fact, some female children are not born with a hymen so it is absolutely wrong to make the hymen your criteria for determining virginity.”

Aisha was barely listening. The information Umar was giving her didn’t mean anything to her. It answered her own personal questions but it she wasn’t excited that she’d be vindicated before Ahmed, she even doubted he’d believe any of that. She stared far away as tears rolled down her eyes.

“My life is such a mess.”

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The “medical condition” (Hymen)

Women do not know enough about their anatomies. It is important that you get better acquainted with your body.

Many people cherish the idea of marrying virgins, especially in Africa where the decency of a woman is very much appreciated and rewarded.

There are traditions in Nigeria that hold virginity with very high esteem.
In some traditions, a white cloth is spread on the bed on the first night of the wedding and the newly weds are expected to conssumate the marriage. It is expected that the white cloth gets soiled with blood from the new bride as proof of her virginity and then the couple should appear before the guests with blood-stained sheet to prove that the bride was a virgin.

But many women who have never had intercourse don’t bleed during their first intercourse because their hymen has already been disrupted so this is not an accurate way to determine if a woman is a virgin because there are many ways a woman’s hymen can fade even without contact with a man.

When a virgin meets a man, carnally for the first time, it is expected that she experiences a little pain and that there be little blood. The blood is as a result of the hymen that has been ruptured.

The hymen is a thin fleshy tissue membrane which partially closes the opening of the vagina and whose presence is traditionally taken to be a mark of virginity.

There is a popular opinion that the hymen totally covers the opening of your vagina until it’s stretched open, but that’s not usually the case, in most cases, the hymen is not complete, it is moon shaped to allow menstruation and the use of tampons.

However, some people are born with a very little hymenal tissue that it seems like they don’t have a hymen at all. In rare cases, people have hymens that cover the entire vaginal opening, or the hole in their hymen is very small — they may need to see a doctor for a minor procedure to remove the extra tissue. Just like other parts of our body, hymens are a little different for everyone.
Your hymen can be stretched open the first time you have vaginal sex, which might cause some pain or bleeding. But this doesn’t happen to everyone. And there are other ways that a hymen can be stretched open: riding a bike, doing sports, or putting something in your vagina like a tampon. Once your hymen is stretched open, it can’t grow back.

Plannedparenthood.org


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Imperforate hymen: An imperforate hymen can be diagnosed at birth. More often, the diagnosis is made during the teen years. An imperforate hymen is a thin membrane that completely covers the opening to the vagina. Menstrual blood cannot flow out of the vagina. This usually causes the blood to back up into the vagina which often develops into an abdominal mass and abdominal and/or back pain. Some teens may also have pain with bowel movements and difficulty passing urine.

youngwomenshealth.org


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Does having a hymen mean you’re a virgin?

Some people believe that you’re not a virgin if your hymen is stretched open. But having a hymen and being a virgin are not the same thing.

Some people are born with hymens that are naturally open. And many other activities besides sex can stretch your hymen. So you can’t tell if someone has had sex by the way their hymen looks or feels.

Plannedparenthood.org