It is wonderful when you finally meet the perfect guy, the one God has for you.
After spending years being single, searching and praying for God to bring you your amazing future husband.
Suddenly, you meet this guy who could be the one you have been praying and trusting God for.
But so many ladies get confused at this point.
They began to ask questions. Questions like;
“How do I know if he’s the one God has for me?”
“How do I know if I should marry him?”.
Here comes the point where many people miss it in marriage because of the decision they make.
In this blog post, we will discuss how to know if he’s the one God has for you, including signs he’s the one.
Signs He’s The One God Has For You.
1) A Confirmation From God.
This is one of the most important and number one you should take note of.
What God tells you trumps all other indicators.
And for you to know what God says, you need to have a level of relationship with Him.
If all other signs point to yes, but God tells you that he’s not the one, then he’s not the one. Don’t let your emotions get in the way.
And if God tells you that he’s the one and you see other signs that he’s not ready for a relationship, it may not be the right timing yet.
God is interested in who you marry because God created marriage and he wants you to marry right.
If you are praying to God and asking him to confirm if he’s the one, you can trust God to speak to you and confirm it.
God can speak in many different ways, and it’s important to be in tune with the Holy Spirit at all times.
God can speak to you in a dream, vision, and through his word.
Sometimes through your pastor or your friend by giving them a dream.
So, it is important to understand how the Holy Spirit speaks to you.
You won’t typically see actual, physical signs indicating that this guy is or isn’t the one.
Rather, God will speak to you through the Holy Spirit and His word to let you know if he’s the one.
2) His Love And Passion For God.
The second indicator that he is the one is if he genuinely loves the Lord and has a good relationship with him.
If this guy doesn’t love God or have a relationship with God, he most likely isn’t the one.
God makes it pretty clear in the Bible how important it is to be equally yoked and to only marry someone who loves the Lord.
Loving God should be considered a non-negotiable and not loving God, a deal breaker. So you need to be sure that he loves the Lord.
If he doesn’t love the Lord, then it is a sign that he’s not the one. So it is time to move on.
3) Spiritual compatibility.
Before you met, you might have had a different spiritual upbringing.
You might have grown up in a different denomination or church.
This might have affected how you both think and behave.
So it is important to know if you are both spiritually compatible.
Just because he goes to church with you doesn’t mean you are equally yoked.
And just because he says he is a Christian or that he loves God doesn’t necessarily mean you are on the same page.
What if he was just pretending?
Being spiritually compatible is important to God and He would not want you to marry someone that is not on the same page as you.
If this guy brings you further away from God, then this is another sign that he is not the one.
Your future husband should bring you closer to God, and if a guy pressures you to compromise your faith or values, then he is not the one God has for you.
4) You Have peace About The Relationship.
Having peace is an indicator that you are in line with God’s will for your life.
Peace is one way that God speaks to us.
Colossians 3:15 says:
” And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts, for as members of one body you are called to live in peace”.
If you both have a strong peace or reassurance that you are supposed to be together, this could be the Holy Spirit confirming that he is the one God has for you.
But if he seems like a great guy but you sometimes lose your peace around him, it is a sign, to pray and press into what God is trying to tell you.
After you have prayed, and you still don’t have peace about the relationship, this could be a sign that he is not the one or it’s the wrong timing to pursue a relationship.
5) He Loves You As Christ Loves You
In John 1, the Bible tells us that God showed us who love is by sending his only son to die for our sins.
The Bible also tells us to lay down our lives for each other, and specifically address that husbands should love their wives by laying down their lives ( making sacrifice) for her.
So the proof that he loves you, is if he is willing to sacrifice or lay down his life for you.
If he says he loves you but doesn’t put his love into action, then he may not be the one God has for you.
If a guy doesn’t love you as Christ loves you, it may not be love at all.
But if he does love you as Christ loves you, this is a sign that he could be the one.
6) He Lives Out God’s Word In His Life.
Words are futile without actions.
So even though a man speaks the words of God, if he doesn’t practice them you can conclude that he’s only pretending and not the guy sent to you by God.
You want someone who will be faithful and loyal to you, if he is not faithful to God, it’s best not to be together.
7) You Love and enjoy spending time together.
There may be some qualities or values that you love about him, for example, his passion for God and his word, his humility, and kindness, but do you enjoy spending time together?
Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away by their qualities and characteristics, but being able to enjoy the time you spend together is also important.
You don’t necessarily have to have all the same interests and hobbies.
But being able to find something that you enjoy doing together will be an important sign that he is the one.
8) He honors and respects you.
Honor and respect is the desire of every human.
And it is important that he honors, adores, and respects you.
If he doesn’t respect you as a woman and a person, it is a sign that he is not the one for you.
9) Your Individual God-given Assignments Align.
God has given everyone unique gifts, talents, and a purpose in this world, and God has a unique plan and purpose for your marriage.
You and your future husband’s gifts and purpose should complement each other in some form or fashion.
You have to always be on the same team.
You’re on the same team with your jobs, with the housework, with serving at the church, with the kids, and with everything you do.
It is important to identify your values, strength, and weaknesses to see how you can help each other to fulfill the plans and purpose God has for both of you.
10) He Is An Answer To Your Prayers.
Sometimes you know he’s the one God has for you when this man is an answered prayer.
Maybe you’ve been praying for your future husband to have certain qualities and characteristics and this guy has all these qualities that you’ve been praying for.
Or maybe you have been praying over a certain guy that you like for quite some time, and he is finally showing interest in you. This can be the answer to your prayers.
In conclusion, God desires that you marry right.
So it is important to take note of the signs above before you make your marital decision.