Who you’re in a relationship with when you’re going through process, determines a lot. Your partner has the power to fast track or inhibit your progress.
One of the most important things to consider before going into a love relationship with someone is compatibility. Not just compatibility in behavior but also compatibility in purpose.
Are you ready to marry the vision of your partner?
Conflict in assignments and purpose of the two parties create friction in relationships.
This post is particularly directed at women. What is your man’s assignment, what does it entail, what is your contribution likely to be and can you afford it?
People hardly pay attention to things like purpose or assignment when faced with the choice of a life partner. They close their eyes to that aspect of life because it is not very evident at that point. They bury it under the carpet only to have it resurface in future bigger and destructive.
There is no assignment without a price to be paid but having the understanding of his passions and where he’s likely heading helps you sit back to count the cost before accepting a potential partner. When a man begins to pay the price for his assignment, his woman will not be left out. She may even have to bear a larger part of the burden as he may lean on her for support sometimes but having a prior knowledge helps prepare and brace her up to the challenge.
It is foolish to go along with a man whose assignment you’re not willing to support and sacrifice for. Permit me to even call it wicked because you will end up frustrating the man.
The greatest gift you can give to your man is to believe in him.
– Yusuf Yerimah (ENI)
Of course, there will be unexpected moments, and sacrifices will arise that you didn’t prepare for but these will be on few occasions. The greater part of your lives will be filled with almost predictable events.
If a man’s actions seems to be tailored towards the five fold ministry and you happen to be the sister he saw in his “visions” as his wife, don’t just rush to say yes. God doesn’t coerce men, that is why he gave us our will. You have the option to say no if you believe you’ll do more harm than good to his purpose or you’re not ready for the sacrifices that come with being a Pastor’s wife.
A man who is a budding entrepreneur will have a lot of highs and lows and that will require a lot of patience and support from you as the lady, be prepared for it or just say no.
Sometimes, getting ready to bear the weight of your man’s assignment, will require you developing thick skin and being strong. Sometimes, it may even demand that your own assignment/purpose be suspended or reduced for a while.
Almost every woman wants a “purpose driven man”, but how many are ready to give it what it takes?
Having an idea of his assignment and likely sacrifices to be made together with the willingness to support him forms part of the framework of a solid relationship.
“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it. For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’ “Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Won’t he first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand? :If he is not able, he will send a delegation while the other is still a long way off and will ask for terms of peace – Jesus
Also to encourage women already making these sacrifices for their men; The sacrifices men make usually has a lot to do with their assignments; a man with an unusual kind of assignment and purpose will likely have to make unusual sacrifices, you must build enough fortitude to bear it to help him get to his desired destination. A strong man needs a strong woman because the role of the Queen is to protect her King. Consider yourself blessed to have a man with a vision because men without vision have nowhere to go so they eventually return to their past.