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Through valleys I will trust
Your spirit is enough, to keep me walking
You guide my every step
Speak life to me again
Lord I need You
Oh I need You
As I muttered those words from Hillsong’s “In Control”, I let the tears freely flow.
I flipped through the pages of my Bible, trying to concentrate on the words.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid
After I caught my husband in his office kissing Kate, a lady who lived not to far from our house, I left my matrimonial home for Mummy D’s.
That obviously wasn’t the worst my husband had done but that was the first time I had to go through the torture of seeing it with my eyes.
Femi had run after me, begging on his knees but I didn’t listen. I mean who would have?
“Fade, have you been praying for your husband?” Mummy D asked one evening after we said our prayers and were about to go to bed.
“I’ve prayed mummy. I prayed tirelessly. I desperately hoped God would change Femi and how did that go for me? God is not listening, there’s no point. I’ve done nothing but love God all my life. I’ve served him. Now, barely a year into my marriage, it’s already a mess. Do I deserve this?”
“Unanswered prayers do not mean that God has turned his back on you. God gives the toughest battles to His strongest soldiers. You have done well so far, don’t give up Fade”
“I’ve been struggling with sexual sin since I was a teenager but I did my best to hide it when I met my wife because I didn’t want to loose her. I successfully hid it from her for 8 years”.
“Why didn’t you just overcome it completely instead of hiding and trying to suppress it?” Pastor Felix asked, trying to hide the pity in his eyes as he looked at my husband.
“I tried but I couldn’t. I thought it’d leave when I got married”
“Why didn’t you seek help? Brother Femi, if you had taken the pain to get delivered of this habit, you would have been saving yourself innumerable challenges in future. Now look at the mess you have created”
“I’m ready to change Pastor. I’ll do all it takes, please. Help me”.
Again I will build thee, and thou shalt be built, O virgin of Israel: thou shalt again be adorned with thy tabrets, and shalt go forth in the dances of them that make merry.
Could I forgive a man who cheated on me, not once, not twice, but multiple times?
I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.
And I will cleanse them from all their iniquity, whereby they have sinned against me; and I will pardon all their iniquities, whereby they have sinned, and whereby they have transgressed against me.
“Darling please don’t give up on us. I love you and I won’t survive without you. Please don’t leave me. I’m ready to do everything I can to get rid of this habit. Baby, please”
Can one truly forgive a cheating spouse?
It’s our fourth year anniversary.
My husband smiled as he held me with one hand and carried our 6 months old baby in the other and we walked into Church.
Forgiving Femi turned out to be a great decision as we have known peace and bliss ever since.
Through discipline, retreats, fasting and prayers, my husband was able to overcome his ungodly sexual appetite. He’s still a work in progress as he constantly renews his mind through God’s Word and strives towards complete victory.
It was hard at first, getting back the friendship and love we had lost, but we intentionally worked towards it and even though I’m still not quite there yet especially with trusting him, I believe I’ll get there with time.
– THE END
I hope you enjoyed my story.
I am one person who is very skeptical about cheating generally more so in marriage but I’d love to know your opinion on such an issue. So what do you guys think, should a cheating partner be forgiven? Let me know what you think in the comment section.
Thank you ❤
Bet why is the man’s name “Femi”
?????? because Femi sounds like a perfect name for a Yoruba demon ?
I feel so sad
Would you forgive a repentant cheating spouse?
Definitely yes, a cheating partner should be forgiven. For me I have forgiven my partner in advance no matter what she will do. And I am not saying this from my head but from experience. I will do my job of washing her with water so I can present her as a bride without blemish to Christ Jesus.
Hmmm powerful. Thanks for your opinion sir
“?????? because Femi sounds like a perfect name for a Yoruba demon ?” hahaha
It could be devastating ma…may we not have to face such, more so repeatedly.
Lol! Amen ooo
Thanks for stopping by.
Powerful story dear it easier said than done may God engrace us to do d needful cos the promise said till death do us part. And he has said we should forgive 70*7 times. I guess it is right and God’s will for us to forgive
Hmmm true. Amen
Finally got to read the story. ?
I also think a cheating spouse should be forgiven, it is not easy but there is always grace.
Praying for our spouse is something we should never take for granted.
You are really doing a great job here darling, more exploits and influence
Amen! Thanks for your contribution.
God bless you
Great story indeed.
Yes a cheating partner should be forgiven, it’s not really easy as said, but with the help of the Holy Spirit, everything’s possible.
Thank you for this wonderful story.
True. Thanks for reading ❤
Smiles….yes a cheating partner should be forgiven but am more concern about the lessons….the fact was that even before reading the second part of the story I just knew that sin didn’t just start that day but has been there in form of a seed, ‘lust’ that grew into ‘masturbation and then ultimately, ‘fornication’. He truly loved his wife but that part of him has not been dealt with hence he falls but thank God for the wife….so much lessons indeed to learn
-Deal with your struggles
-Have a mentor
-Restrict the ears that hear about your problems
-Learn to show your love to your spouse
-Have a forgiving spirit
-And most importantly have a relationship personally with your maker.
Just saw this comment. Powerful lessons
Thank you so much
Hi,Good Evening what he did was not right,Best thing to forgiven u partner,pray for he/her,Someone make mistakes but best things to avoid it again. May Almighty bless you and grant u Heaven.
Bless u children with patient,Good health,Wealth and best ever nd achieved their goal with God Grace.
Impressed story,God bless u and Protect us from evil. Ameen ya rabb.
Amen. Thanks for your contribution.
God bless you
this is beautiful. Hmmm this patience and endurance. In fact. long suffering is not easy oh. But that’s what makes it of God. well written. I lobe this
Hello, I stumbled on your blog today. It is a good message you tell. So my comment isn’t meant to antagonize, it’s good to forgive, you do it more for yourself than others. But your peace of mind is very important, I don’t subscribe to praying a storm every time for a cheating partner. A toxic environment is not good for growth especially when others; children might be involved.
The story didn’t say you should pray a storm EVERY TIME for a cheating partner. But you SHOULD pray. Even if you won’t remain in the marriage eventually, you should pray.
If the environment is toxic and you need to leave, why not? Your peace of mind is important.
But if you have the heart to forgive and give it another chance. Why shouldn’t you?
Talking about forgiveness, you do it for yourself and for the person involved.
Love is forgiveness. Please read the story of Prophet Hosea and his wife in the Bible.
Never, I have a problem with the way “Forgiveness” message is being preached in the body of christ today, they teach it like it is an instant act while it is actually A PROCESS. I believe DIVORCE a cheating spouse, because his/her lifestyle is just welcoming more wicked demons into the matrimonial home. I believe don’t stress yourself over a prayerless, cheating or bad behaved spouse, DIVORCE is just the way out. After the divorce ask for the grace to forgive, and try your best to be friends with your ex-spouse ONLY when kids are involved in the broken marriage.
I respect your opinion