Through valleys I will trust
Your spirit is enough, to keep me walking
You guide my every step
Speak life to me again
Lord I need You
Oh I need You
As I muttered those words from Hillsong’s “In Control”, I let the tears freely flow.
I flipped through the pages of my Bible, trying to concentrate on the words.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid
After I caught my husband in his office kissing Kate, a lady who lived not to far from our house, I left my matrimonial home for Mummy D’s.
That obviously wasn’t the worst my husband had done but that was the first time I had to go through the torture of seeing it with my eyes.
Femi had run after me, begging on his knees but I didn’t listen. I mean who would have?
“Fade, have you been praying for your husband?” Mummy D asked one evening after we said our prayers and were about to go to bed.
“I’ve prayed mummy. I prayed tirelessly. I desperately hoped God would change Femi and how did that go for me? God is not listening, there’s no point. I’ve done nothing but love God all my life. I’ve served him. Now, barely a year into my marriage, it’s already a mess. Do I deserve this?”
“Unanswered prayers do not mean that God has turned his back on you. God gives the toughest battles to His strongest soldiers. You have done well so far, don’t give up Fade”
“I’ve been struggling with sexual sin since I was a teenager but I did my best to hide it when I met my wife because I didn’t want to loose her. I successfully hid it from her for 8 years”.
“Why didn’t you just overcome it completely instead of hiding and trying to suppress it?” Pastor Felix asked, trying to hide the pity in his eyes as he looked at my husband.
“I tried but I couldn’t. I thought it’d leave when I got married”
“Why didn’t you seek help? Brother Femi, if you had taken the pain to get delivered of this habit, you would have been saving yourself innumerable challenges in future. Now look at the mess you have created”
“I’m ready to change Pastor. I’ll do all it takes, please. Help me”.
Again I will build thee, and thou shalt be built, O virgin of Israel: thou shalt again be adorned with thy tabrets, and shalt go forth in the dances of them that make merry.
Could I forgive a man who cheated on me, not once, not twice, but multiple times?
I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.
And I will cleanse them from all their iniquity, whereby they have sinned against me; and I will pardon all their iniquities, whereby they have sinned, and whereby they have transgressed against me.
“Darling please don’t give up on us. I love you and I won’t survive without you. Please don’t leave me. I’m ready to do everything I can to get rid of this habit. Baby, please”
Can one truly forgive a cheating spouse?
It’s our fourth year anniversary.
My husband smiled as he held me with one hand and carried our 6 months old baby in the other and we walked into Church.
Forgiving Femi turned out to be a great decision as we have known peace and bliss ever since.
Through discipline, retreats, fasting and prayers, my husband was able to overcome his ungodly sexual appetite. He’s still a work in progress as he constantly renews his mind through God’s Word and strives towards complete victory.
It was hard at first, getting back the friendship and love we had lost, but we intentionally worked towards it and even though I’m still not quite there yet especially with trusting him, I believe I’ll get there with time.
– THE END
I hope you enjoyed my story.
I am one person who is very skeptical about cheating generally more so in marriage but I’d love to know your opinion on such an issue. So what do you guys think, should a cheating partner be forgiven? Let me know what you think in the comment section.
Thank you ❤